As women, we are often taught from a young age to be harmonious and pleasing to others. We take care of children, partners, friends, and colleagues. Even when our inner voice screams "No," the word "Yes" slips easily from our lips.
Why is saying no so hard?
Behind this often lies a fear of disappointing others or being rejected. We equate our worth with how useful we are to others. But whenever we say "Yes" to someone else when we have no energy, we say "No" to ourselves.
The first step to healthy boundaries
Setting boundaries is not selfish. It is self-care. Simply saying "Let me think about it before I promise" can work wonders. This gives you time to ask yourself: "Do I really want this? Do I have the energy for it?"
In coaching, we work on exactly these patterns, releasing guilt and building self-worth so a clear "No" can come from you naturally and lovingly.